OVERCOMING THE YETZER HARA!

 

Once, when Rabbi Pinchas of Korets entered his Beis Medresh, study hall, he noticed that his students stopped conversing and then started again. He asked them what it was they were talking about. They told the Rebbe that they were saying how they were afraid that the Yetzer Hara, evil inclination, would pursue them. The Rebbe responded, “Don't worry. You aren’t on such a high level. You’re still pursuing him!”

 

                When I first heard this story, it really hit home base for me. Every time I have told it over, it has almost shocked the listeners. It’s funny how the simple words of rabbi Pinchas of Korets contain, for most, the antidote for to overcoming much of their struggles with their Yetzer Hara.

 

                The Yetzer Hara, guided by the Satan, is said to get stronger everyday as one grows in their level of Yiddishkite, Judaism. Someone once said to his Rebbe, “I wish I had your Yetzer Hara.”  The Rabbi taken aback said strongly, in a stern voice, “Chas V Shalom, G-D forbid.”  The student innocently thought that because his rabbi was so pure it must be that his Yetzer Hara, evil inclination wasn’t so strong. The real truth is that the higher ones level of piety, the stronger it their Yetzer Hara has to become. After all, aren’t we supposed to struggle in life with free choice! Without a Yetzer Hara, being a pious man would be easy and therefore have little value to Hashem and ourselves. To value something you must work for it. One should also take precautions to prevent themselves from falling into a trap by their evil inclination.

 

 

                Rabbi Menachem Mendel, of Kotsk, was walking down the street with his friend Reb Yitzchak, of Vorki, when they encountered an old woman who was peddling knives. Reb Yitzchak wanted to purchase a small knife for himself, for which the women wanted four coins. Wanting to save some extra money, he offered her three coins for it. His friend, Rabbi Menachem Mendel, called him by his nickname, “Itshe! The Mishna teaches us: ‘Do not converse excessively with women.’ Now isn’t that worth one copper coin?”  This is an excellent example of guarding ones self for falling prey to the evil inclination.

 

 

                The holy Baal Shem Tov was once taking a stroll through a deserted place. He had paid no attention to where he was walking, since he was very deep in his thoughts as he walked through this desert. He trusted in Hashem that there must be some reason why He had brought him here, as everything in life serves a purpose. Suddenly he saw a huge frog. He asked the frog who it was, and he answered that he was a transmigration of the soul of a former scholar. His original soul had done so many sins that he was forced to wonder in this deserted desert. The rabbi asked him to tell him how he sinned, so he could understand what had happened to bring him to such a state. The frog told how when he was in his human form, he had once washed his hands carelessly. He didn’t have the proper concentration and thoughts while washing and saying the prayer. It went up to the heavenly court and of course this isn’t a terrible sin, but it was enough of a negligence that he needed to do teshuva, repentance. Chazal teach us that one sin leads to another and the scholar didn’t truly repent and was sent the Satan to test him in another situation. One after another the scholar became relaxed in fearing G-D and soon became a great sinner. The Heavenly court now had ruled that he would not be forgiven unless he pleaded long and hard for all of his wrong acts. The Satan once again came and induced him to drink so much so that he could not possibly do any repentance, and he continued sinning until he committed the worse of sins. When he passed on, it was decreed that his neshama, soul transmigrate to the form of a frog. This was because his original sin had to do with water. He was sent to such a deserted place so that no Jew, by chance, would come along and say a blessing, as that would elevate his soul and free him from this transmigration. Rabbi Yisroel said the necessary blessings and praises to Hashem and enabled this soul to be saved, and the frog instantly died. (Sivchei Besht)

 

               

                One mitzvah leads to another mitzvah.  From this story you can see that one avaira, sin, leads to another sin. Reb Nachman said that when you do teshuva you must try and repent for the first time you sinned in a certain action, and then all the rest of the same sin will be forgiven thereafter. No matter how sunk in sin, this person could still have repented completely and never have been punished.  Hashem was patient with him and gave him the opportunities to repent. If only he had reflected and thought before washing his hands to concentrate more, he would have never sunk so deeply. We cannot ignore the little things we do wrong. We must confess and ask Hashem to forgive us, even for what we might think are minor sins. Not saying a blessing over a cup of water, skipping the blessings upon rising from ones bed in the morning, and so on.

 

 

                The evil urge is similar to a prankster running through a crowd showing his tightly closed hand. No one knows what it is he is holding. He goes up to each person and asks, “What do you suppose I have in my hand?” Each person imagines that the closed hand has in it just what he desires most. They all hurry and run after the prankster. Then, when he has tricked them enough, that they are following him, he opens his hand. It is completely empty! The same is true of the evil one. He tricks the world, fooling them into following him. Everyone thinks that his hand contains what they need. In the end, the evil one opens his hand. There is nothing in it and no desire is ever fulfilled. Worldly pleasures are just like sunbeams in a dark room. They may actually seem solid, but when a person tries to grasp a sunbeam they find nothing in their hand. The same is true of all worldly desires. (Reb Nachman’s Wisdom #6)

 

 

                Rabbi Noson once remarked, that the evil inclination cares much less about the sin than about the depression that follows it. This is because by means of the depression, it can further trap the person and gain much more than from the first single sin.

 

                The Seer of Lublin, in the name of the Arizal, said the following; “When a person is sunk in a depressive state, no advice can help him. He must simply wait until the anger passes.”

 

                “When the moment of happiness suddenly arrives, all of his problems will then be solved.”(Zichron Zos)                       

 

 

                “A happy heart is as healing as medicine”. (Mishlei 17:22) There is only one way to truly have a happy heart and Dovid Hamelech says it in the following posuk; “Cast your burden on Hashem, and He will sustain you.”(Tehillim 55:23) So many of us keep things bottled up inside until we are ready to burst! Tell Hashem of your troubles. Don’t live a life of sorrow for years and years. As hard as it might be, find someone to open your heart up to and get the help you need. Maybe things aren’t as bad as they seem inside and all you need is to share your troubles with someone with a kind heart. The Satan doesn’t have to try so hard with us! We do most of the damage to our souls needlessly and don’t even need his assistance! A person can’t serve Hashem properly when their heart is in pain. There is always help out there and we have to be brave enough to find it. Never forget, Hashem is always with us and there is no sin we can’t completely repent for.

 

 

                One of the things the Satan has us believe is that we are alone in our sin. We have sinned, and we cannot make amends. This is so not true. Rebbe Nachman says, “If you believe you can damage, believe that you can fix. There is not a sin in the world that you can’t repent for. The Rebbe also says that no matter how far you are from Hashem and Judaism you can always return to the ways of the Torah. Of course the Satan doesn’t want you to know this and even if you do know it he tries to give you doubts about it and make you loose hope in ever truly repenting.

 

                 It’s interesting to note that most of us think that the mistakes we make are never done by our fellow piers. We think we are alone in our errors and we look at ourselves with little confidence. Even the greatest rabbis and rebbezins accidentally stumbled in horrible immoral sins and then repented completely. Maybe they were stuck in these sins for years just like you are. You’re never alone my friends, and with perseverance you will overcome your tayvos as well! The first step of course is to stop repeating this sin. If you try and can’t overcome it, then ask for help. For all you know, your friend or rabbi stumbled on the exact same sin. Stop looking down upon yourself for this is all the trick of the Satan to make you depressed. Don’t dwell on the mistakes you make but rather use that energy to do something about it. Repent by talking to Hashem and asking His forgiveness. Take a trip to a great tzaddik and confess your sin to him.  Ask for a remedy. Confessing your sins in the presence of Torah scholar produces good thoughts. (Sefer Hamidos 69)

 

 

                The sins a person commits are engraved on his very bones. (Ezekiel 32:27) When he confesses them before a Torah scholar, the entire accumulation of evil engraved on his bones is lifted. All his sins are forgiven and he is granted atonement. (Likutey Maharan I, 4:3)

 

 

                If you can’t handle going to a living tzaddik, go to the grave of a tzaddik and ask him to pray for you and tell him of your sin. I have met too many people in my life that kept secrets bottled up inside them for their entire life. When they finally release their pain to someone, it gives them new life and vitality.

               

               

                Many wonder why Hashem created evil in the world as well as good. If we didn’t have an evil inclination then we would be like robots. We would be doing the will of Hashem like it was nothing, without meaning or heart. It is our free will that gives us the ability to be true servants of Hashem.

 

 

                I think it’s the will of Hashem that I be blunt with you at this point. The Satan knows that if he can get you to be depressed he will defeat you. Do whatever you can to never let this happen! Fight sadness with all your heart and limbs. Force yourself to be happy if that is what it takes. (Rebbe Nachman) If you think too much, keep yourself busy so as not to think depressing thoughts. Spend more time around family and friends who can cheer you up. Whenever I was down, I stayed away from others so as not to bring them down with me and this was an error on my part.

 

 

                Hashem has just blessed me with a new insight. Every tzaddik is faced with the most difficult tests. Chazal say that the higher ones level the greater their evil inclination. There is no tzaddik that exists that wasn’t tempted and didn’t face sin head to head. We think that because they are righteous they were never normal human beings just like us facing the simple temptations we do. Yosef  HaTzaddik covered his face and ran away from the most beautiful women in the world, Potifar’s wife. Rabbi Abraham Abulafia was brave enough in his sefer,Chayay Olam Habah, to admit that he defiled his body from the wasteful admission of seed. He says that for fifteen years, the Satan was at my right hand to mislead me.” Also he said that the numerical value of Satan, 359, is the same as that of Zera Lavan, white seed which is in reference to semen. This goes to show you one of the main goals of the Satan and that is sexual desire.

 

 

                Rebbe Nachman says that sexual desire is the great test a man faces in this world. (Rabbi Nachman’s Wisdom 115) The Rebbe said that he was able to overcome this desire but he had to cry out to Hashem again and again. The temptations were very real for him but he later said, “A man with even the smallest amount of real intelligence, will not find this a temptation at all.” The Satan wanted so much for him to slip on this desire that he was willing to let the Rebbe overcome every other desire if only he would slip up on this once. The Rebbe did the opposite, though, and said he would ignore his other desires and not work to control them at all but the sexual desire he would completely eradicate.(Shevachay Haran 16) As a young man even amidst the fire burning inside him, he overcame this desire completely. He later said, “I do not have any feeling of desire at all. Men and women are all the same to me.” When he came in contact with a woman, he didn’t even have an extraneous thought. (ibid)

 

 

                Another time the Rebbe said, “I am afraid of neither women nor angel”. This deserves further explanation. A person may totally cleanse himself of evil thoughts. However, as long as he has the slightest fear of such thoughts, he is still not completely cleansed. This slight fear he has is a sign that he has not yet attained true complete purity. Therefore, he must fear an angel.”(ibid.18)

 

 

                One shouldn’t fear the evil inclination; rather they should be aware and cautious of it, so as not to fall into its traps. When you fear anything, you cause yourself to loose control. The only thing to fear is Hashem. Fearing the evil inclination is like giving into it   (Sichos Rochel 1b). Rabbi Pinchos of Koritz once said, “When a person is scared of something, he is actually subjugated to that very thing. If he is not afraid, he remains above it. (Imrei Pinchas HaSholem)

 

 

                King Dovid was the most devout of men, Samson was the strongest, and Solomon the wisest man that ever lived. The reason the Torah recorded that these great men went wrong through women is to show us that women have an overpowering hold over men and that the sexual desire overwhelms even the greatest of men.(Sefer Chassidim 225)

 

                A woman, though created differently, has many of the same inclinations as that of a man. They just manifest themselves differently. Today immorality has crawled its way into even the most protected of homes. We think that we have made our homes sealed from outside influences but they still manage to get in. Lets not be naive and not talk to our children about things like this. Don’t just assume they just know what is right and not the wrong as well. Clarify it for them; tell them how to deal with their sexual emotions. If you don’t, then you are more naive then they are! In a society like we have today, you cannot take chances. You must talk to your children and students. Tell them that these thoughts and temptations they might be having are normal and only then tell them the words of Chazal on how to overcome their yetzer hara.

 

 

                When you attain purity of the Covenant, you will have reached the highest of holiness. When a person guards the Holy Covenant, it is as if he had kept the entire Torah because it is equal to the whole Torah. (Zohar I, 66b) The Holy Covenant makes the body of a man radiant and lustrous, and one who guards it will never come to any harm. (Zohar II, 3b) For years, tzaddikim searched for a tikkun, remedy, for the sexual desire. It wasn’t till about 200 years ago that it was found but unfortunately the remedy hasn’t been publicized enough. Rabbi Yehoshua ben Levi said, “Through ten expressions of praise, the book of Psalms was composed. They are Nitzuach, Nigun, Maskil, Mizmor, Shir, Ashrei, Tehilah, Tefilah, Hoda’ah and Hallel.”(Pesachim 117a, Zohar III, 101a) These ten types of song also correspond to the ten sefirot as alluded to in the Zohar. They therefore have the power to nullify the strength of the kelipah and blemish caused by an impure experience. The ten Psalms a person should recite are, 16, 32, 41, 42, 59, 77, 90, 105, 137, 150 in this order as shown. This is called the Tikkun HaKlali, the complete remedy. Every sin has its own remedy but this is the complete remedy. Those struggling with overcoming this sin should say it and by those who seek a remedy for any problem they might be experiencing.

 

 

                It says in the Talmud, “Sinful thoughts are worse than the sin itself.”(Yoma 29a)  Guard your thoughts very carefully, for thought can literally create life. The higher a faculty, the farther its capability to reach. You can kick something with your foot, but you can throw it much higher with your hand. Your voice can reach still farther, calling to a person far away. Hearing reaches even farther. Father yet is the reach of sight, which can touch even the astronomical bodies. The higher a faculty, the farther it can reach. The highest of all is the mind, which can penetrate the loftiest heights. You must therefore safeguard your mind above all else. (Sichos Haran 46) 

 

 

                Our minds are constantly flowing with thoughts. From one thing to another like an internal conversation. The environment we are around very much affects these thoughts in one-way or another. If you close your eyes you can see the mind at work as you will see images flashing before your eyes, like a kaleidoscope. Controlling your thoughts can be difficult at first, but with practice and patience it can be done.

 

 

                In the evening prayer service we say that we will meditate on the Torah both day and night. Having extraneous thoughts are part of being a human being. I’m ashamed at my own thoughts sometimes, but I know that it is normal to have them. At the same time, I try to quickly change my thoughts so I don’t dwell on the negatives thoughts. The second a negative thought comes into our minds we must immediately cast it aside with a good upright thought. If this seems impossible at the time, we must cry out from the depths of our heart to Hashem.

 

 

                The holy Seer of Lublin had a strong practice from his youth that he would not think, speak, or do anything except what would give some satisfaction or pleasure to Hashem. (Seder Ha-Yom Ha-Katzar, P.12) The Rebbe when he was young once went to be with his rabbi, Rebbe Elimelech of Lizensk. As he was traveling along one day, there was a very heavy rain, and it was extremely cold outside. He lost his way as it was dark and was drifting in the forest. He saw a house with lit windows and thereby entered it. It was very warm and cozy inside and he felt relieved after having suffered so much in the cold and rain.

 

 

                In one room he saw a beautiful young single woman, and the Rebbe didn’t know what to do as it was forbidden to be alone with a woman. It also became clear that this woman was trying to talk the Rebbe into sinning. She started telling him how she was unmarried and was ritually clean and the Rebbe became very distressed by her enticements and her attempted seduction.

 

 

                Though he was loosing his composure, he at least remembered the fence he had made for himself and answered her saying, “I have accepted on myself not to do anything, not even something permitted, except what gives some pleasure to my Creator. But what satisfaction will Hashem derive from this?” Just as he uttered these words, he realized that the whole scene before him was imaginary. There was no house, no forest and no woman. He was standing by the road all alone.(Eser Orot, p. 89, #23) It was all a test to see if he would be strong and control his thoughts.

 

 

               

                Facing sin in its face and running, that is how these tzaddikim became so pure. Rabbi Singer of Passaic said that it was specifically these moments when we face our sins face to face and relent that we become great. Next time you face a sin before your eyes, be strong and know that it’s a test and by passing it you will reach an all-new high level. Be strong as with the help of Hashem you can overcome even the most difficult of tests.

 

 

               

                Iyov, Job, was a clear target for the Satan, as he was a very pious humble man. Everything was good for him, and the Satan asked permission from Hashem to test him to see if he would still want to serve Him.

 

 

                The Vilna Goan says, “A person who is wise in his eyes will not make positive changes. Since he thinks he is correct, he is not aware of his negative and counterproductive behavior. But if a person is aware of what he is doing wrong, then there is hope that he will correct himself”.

 

 

                One has to rise above themselves and look at themselves as with a mirror which reflects ones image. One should learn mussar to help themselves to do this. Through hisbodidus one can nullify their ego and thereby completely illuminate all their bad character traits.

 

 

                Rav Levi bar Hama says, in the name of Rav Shimon bar Lakish, “A man should always insight his good impulse to fight against the evil impulse. For it is written, ‘tremble and don’t sin’. If he subdues it, it is well and good. If he has trouble, he should study the Torah. For it is written, ‘Commune with your own heart’. If he still has more difficulties, he should recite the Shema. For it is also written, ‘Upon your bed’. Should the negative impulse still affect him, let him remind himself of the day of death. As it says, ‘And be still, Selah.’” (Berakoth 5a) This advice from Rav Shimon bar Lakish should really be enough to help one overcome the yetzer hara but since it is so tricky to defeat him, we need a little more advice as well to help us.

 

 

                If a person has erotic thoughts and cannot banish them from this mind, Rabbi Yehuda HeChassid has a few ideas to help this. A person should try going for a walk until the thoughts go away, or he should talk to people about other things, or he should try pressing his toes onto the ground and place the full weight of his body on them. (Sefer Chassidim P. 222)

 

 

                Another thing a man can do to help him fight his evil inclination is to purify himself in the mikvah. Rabbi Mordechai of Lechovitz said, “You should always seek to purify yourself in the mikvah, especially when necessary, for the mikvah purifies the mind. (Zichron L’Rishonim, p.32) The mikvah represents the womb. When an individual enters the mikvah, he is reentering the womb. Then when he emerges, he is as if born anew. From this he attains a completely new status. (Rabbi Aryeh Kaplan, Waters of Eden, p.13)

 

                It is said about the Baal Shem Tov, that he attained his enlightenment and great levels of holiness because he very frequently used the mikvah. (Keter Shem Tov, DhtvhY section on Taharah, p. 16b) So here is before you clear evidence that immersion in the mikvah often will help you fight your evil inclination.

 


                When a person gives of themselves to others through charity and kind deeds then they will think less of themselves and are not as prone to sin. Ones life should be devoted towards helping others and one shouldn’t be centered only around themselves. This will help balance their actions and thoughts. Charity protects against immoral fantasies. (Likutey Etzot Tzidaka 31) It is also a remedy for immorality. (ibid 32)

 

 

                The following advice can be found in Sefer Hamidos in various places: Depression causes one to experience an emission. Eating garlic and eggs, engaging in idle talk or by having used vulgar words, brings on a wasteful emission of seed. A person who is afraid of having immoral thoughts because of what he might see while walking through the marketplace should recite the verse, “Behold, the mighty ones will cry outside”. (Isaiah 32:7) This will save him from the evil effects, which come from his eyes having wondered. Gritting your teeth is a segulah against unholy thoughts. Gazing down at ones tzitsis has the ability to guard one from sin. To chase away the evil inclination you should say, “Hashem, rebuke the Satan”. When a person studies Torah and performs acts of kindness they have mastery over their inclination. Crying can also dispel one of immoral thoughts. To dispel immoral thoughts, a person should picture his father’s image, in his mind. A solution that is practical for preventing evil thoughts is to become angry at something, as in the verse in Tehillim 4:5, “Become angry and do not sin.” Rabbi Noson adds, that the intent here is to become angry with oneself. This is hinted at in the teaching, “A person should always insight the anger of his good inclination against his evil inclination because it is written, ‘Become angry and do not sin.’ This means to become angry at oneself but not to have real anger, which is a sin. A person can also uproot themselves and go elsewhere, as well as jumping from ones place. Reciting the “seven voices” in psalm 29 humbles the evil spirit. The light of a candle subdues the rule of the kelipah. All these things can help a person in times of panic to subdue their inclination.” Please don’t make these things a crutch to overcoming your desires as the true way is to work on yourself and nothing will protect you as well as the learning of Torah.

 

 

                Ones sexual desire is very much bound up with what they see and hear around them. Try to stay away from situations that will lead you to temptation and bad thoughts. Turning your face can be a simple remedy to avoid these problems. The thought that you are standing before Hashem always, “Shivisi Hashem Linegdi Samid” will certainly protect you from making these errors.

 

                Sexual purity and mastery of the holy tongue are connected with each other. The more you speak with words of holiness, the more you will succeed in purifying yourself. In this way you will also make amends for any immorality you have committed in the past. In the same token, the holier you become, the more your mastery of the holy tongue will grow. Each one feeds the other though and you should understand that a similar relationship exists between sexual immorality, G-D forbid, and the abuse of language. (Likutey Etzot p.35) Reb Nachman says, “Be careful not to listen to words of a person who is wicked and also intelligent. The mere words going from his month to your ears can affect your soul. By actually speaking words of holiness purposely when attacked by improper thoughts, you can completely subdue them. The words one speaks are very powerful and can certainly influence them for good or for bad. The level of religious perception that a person can attain depends completely on the degree of purity he achieves.”(Ibid p.40) 

 

 

                A man once came to Rabbi Michel of Zlotchow explaining that he had inadvertently done something, which was forbidden to do on shabbos. He asked the rabbi what he must do for his teshuvah to be accepted. Rabbi Michel then explained to him the severe gravity of violating the shabbos and that shabbos is equivalent to all the other 612 mitzvos. His sin was a very serious one, and he therefore prescribed for the man a stern remedy of fasting and self-mortification as his penance.

 

                This man thereafter came to the Baal Shem Tov and he told him that the fasting that was prescribed by Rabbi Michel was not necessary. Rather he should just provide the shul with candles for the pulpit. The man went out and bought a candle that were made of tallow from animal fat as that is what they were made of in those days. A dog then came and ate them, walking through an open door in the shul. He then replaced the candles but whenever they were lit they blew out. This he took as a divine signal that his teshuvah was rejected and he told this to the Baal Shem Tov.

 

                The holy Baal Shem Tov understood that the problem was due to Rabbi Michel’s interference who believed that the stricter penance was necessary. He then sent a message to Rabbi Michel inviting him to come for shabbos.

 

                Accepting the invitation, the rabbi set out on the road Wednesday in order to give himself enough time to arrive comfortably before shabbos. The trip was constantly interrupted with one mishap after another. An axle of the wagon breaking, a wheel falling off, stormy weather and the driver getting lost. Finally Rabbi Michel arrived late Friday right before shabbos. When he walked in to the Baal Shem Tov’s home, he saw the Rebbe in his garments, the table set and he immediately fainted. The Baal Shem Tov revived him and explained to this pious man that he had accepted upon himself the holy shabbos a little earlier and that he had not violated the shabbos. He then said to Rabbi Michel, “When you thought for a moment that you had violated the shabbos, how distressed were you? Don’t you realize that if the awareness that one has sinned causes a person to feel deeply distressed at having transgressed the word of Hashem, this is the true essence of teshuvah? There is no need for additional self-punitive behavior when regret has already occurred. This man who came to you had already experienced the pain of the awareness of having transgressed. Therefore, all that was necessary was a small action of penance because the true teshuvah had already taken place.

 

                If a person has repented for a certain sin, and has reached true perfection, he must still make amends for his earlier repentance.  What he had achieved then was good only in proportion to the perception of G-dliness he had at that time. Now after his repentance, his perception has undoubtedly increased. In comparison with his present perception, his earlier one turns out to have been very materialistic. He must therefore repent for the levels he achieved earlier because he had lessened the true exaltedness of Hashem to the level of materialism. (Likutey Etzot 331,7)

 

 

                One can see from this that teshuvah is something continuous. As we ascend levels spiritually we realize how far from Hashem we truly were before. It says in sefer Hagilgulim that no two neshamos can be on the same level at the same time. As each person ascends up a level, they can give the person above them a boost upwards, which is also why sometimes even when we don’t do anything extra we suddenly can feel a complete rise, closer to Hashem. As we go up we cannot completely forget the time we wasted bellow this level. We must ask Hashem from this new clarity of mind we have to forgive us as we realize more of the true hurt we have done from our sins.

 

 

                There are many other characteristics the yetzer hara goes after in a person. We have centered in on the main one, as by defeating our evil inclinations in sexual purity, all else will follow easily. When a person has one sickness, many times a doctor treats the ailments of the side effects loosing focus on ones main problem. Without a proper defense one cannot defend themselves in war. Weather you know it or not, you are at war with your yetzer hara. You must gather together your plans of defense. To win you must understand your opponent’s strategies. I hope I have helped you here to prepare your defense. Please don’t forget that the Satan is waiting for you to get depressed as when you do, you shut down all your systems and let him run all over you!

 

               

                There is a reason why you personally, more then many of your friends have such difficult tests to overcome and constantly face. You are not the normal run of the mill person. Hashem has a lot of good things in store for you. The Zohar explains that before salvation and good tidings, a person might experience some hardship. It might seem impossible to handle what surrounds you on all side but you must always remember the powerful words of the Baal Shem Tov’s father, “Hashem is always with you”. Abraham was a very important man with a bright future and therefore he faced before him tasks so difficult in which few could pass. Issac, Jacob, Moses, David, Job and so many other great people where stuck in situations in which there was little light to see their way out. Hashem will always be there in that light and so will complete salvation. What makes things even more difficult is that sometimes one might see two lights instead of just the one. This second light sometimes glows with gold dust and only ends up being a pit. This path is the easy way out as it heads right towards the gold color but when you pick it up, you realize it was all for nothing and fake. Once we get used to running after gold dust its sometimes very difficult to stop ourselves. Our Sages have said, one mitzvah leads to a second mitzvah and one avayra, sin leads to a second one. Once you fall into sin it becomes easier and easier to fall into it again. Your mind becomes completely programmed to fall into the same trap over and over again. The only way out is to reprogram your mind. Next time, instead of reaching for the gold dust in the most trying, lownly and depressed strait you are in, reach for the jewels! Hashem and the Torah are there for you. You must cling to them with whatever little strength you have left. When Hashem starts lifting you up don’t let go like you are so accustomed of doing. Reprogram yourself to hold on tight to your faith, as you know you need to. Salvation is in Hashem and know one else. Know this in your heart and act upon it. Maybe you are feeling singled out by Hashem to go through such trying situations and the real truth is that you have been singled out. You have been chosen and I don’t just mean to be a Jew with 613 mitzvos. There is something very unique about you personally. Inside you, is a heart of gold and a wanting to do such good things for the world. Your soul is something extra holy and you have so much to give. Therefore, you have been singled out by the Satan more then others. If you want to win, search yourself for your good points. Make a list of these things in your mind or on paper. Don’t give up and don’t ever despair. When faced with the two lights next time, take the more practical one. The one that will shine brightly for eternity. There is where you will find your deceased relatives and everything good. Go for the permanent fix rather then the imaginary temporary one. So what if you can’t? You just don’t have the strength. Then run! Escape in any way you know how to avoid the sin. The best place to run is in the Torah. If you can’t get yourself to learn then leave the room and maybe take a walk outside. It was decreed that you face this situation at this exact moment in this particular place but if you leave it for a few minutes the urge to sin might completely pass. Do the best you can; you have a lot more strength still left inside you then you might think. Look at all the good things you do to serve Hashem and to help others with your time and money.     

               

 

                Chas v Shalom you fail your test, you must know that Hashem is still there. No matter how far you may have fallen he is there to sustain you. That is, if you chose to let him. My friends, failure is common as we are only human beings made of flesh and blood. If you dwell on your sins they will only come to haunt you even the more. After making a mistake, you must begin anew. This doesn’t mean one should forget completely about it but for the time being it might be best to put it aside during the moment of weakness. Pull yourself back up and then repent as soon as possible. Repentance should not wait but it’s not possible to truly repent while depressed. Fear itself of easily sinning again will only bring on a repetitive occurrence. The Nikelsberger(spelling) Rebbe once told a person who was scared of sinning again that they should just plain forget that it happened and not worry about it. He told this to him because the person was so wrapped up in worry that the worry itself was bringing on the repeated avaira ever so stronger. Rebbe Nachman says if you believe that you can destroy then believe that you can also fix.

 

                Rabbi Meir of Prmishlan lived at the foot of a very steep hill. Each day, even in the ice of winter, he would hike over the hill to immerse and purify his body in a stream on the other side. The people who knew of this considered this quite wondrous as they could only walk around the hill scared of falling on the ice. One day, a few young men decided to put an end to this superstition in which the townsfolk saw. Bravely, they followed the Rabbi up the hilltop as he effortlessly ascended the hill once again. All of them fell down and were badly hurt. What was Rabbi Meir’s secret? “When you are connected to above, “he explained, “You don’t fall down.”(Bringing Heaven down to Earth 129)

 

                If we want to fight the evil urge we must begin by connecting ourselves more to Hashem throughout our day. Let us try to catch ourselves first before we are about to fall. There are a few places to take refuge. One is in our faith of Hashem. Another is by surrounding ourselves with Torah thoughts. All this must be founded on a constant Joy of appreciating all that we have from Hashem.

 

                Rabbi Menachem Schneerson once said, “There’s no such thing as defeat. There is always another chance. To believe in defeat is to believe that there is something, a certain point in time that doesn’t come from above. Know that Hashem does not have failures. If things appear to get worse, it is only as part of them getting better. We only fall down in order to bounce back even higher. (Bringing Heaven down to Earth 139)

 

                With this thought process there is no losing. Our falling, though not pleasurable, doesn’t have turn into depression and despair. In fact, a little reverse psychology on us wouldn’t hurt now and then. Next time you fall Chas v Shalom, bring yourself to high levels of joy! Be happy that Hashem has sustained you out of his love for you. Let the joy radiate your heart over the fact that your going to come back even stronger in your service of Hashem. There is no reason to despair as Hashem only wants to draw you close to Him and he hasn’t let go of you. Now seek Him out and with joy make the necessary changes in your life so that this mistake doesn’t happen again.

 

                Our Sages said, “You have made man like the fish of the sea.” Just as fish immediately die when removed from the water, so Torah scholars immediately perish when divorced from the Torah (Maalos HaTorah p.54). My friends, we have no strength without learning Torah. Our Sages remind us, “I [Hashem] created the evil inclination and I created the Torah as its antidote (Baba Basra 16a).” Now I have heard this precious words for years yet I still struggle getting myself to learn. With the help of Hashem I found another great approach with the help of Reb Avraham ben Shlomo Zalman (the brother of the Vilna Goan)! In Maalos HaTorah he writes, our Rabbi’s said, “If this repulsive one engages you, draw him to the study hall. My brother, the Goan, explained, “If this repulsive one engages you” – this is the Yetzer Hara. When you are unable to withstand him because he overpowers you, then, “draw him to the study hall.” Tell him that in the study hall you will do his will by learning for selfish motives, in order to gain honor. This will put his mind as ease, and he will back down. Thus, “learning not for its own sake leads to doing for its own sake.” In this manner you shall free yourself from the evil inclination completely. We understand the verse, “If your enemy is hungry” – and he desires to make you sin, “feed him the bread of Torah” – fulfill his will by learning for selfish motives, “for you will be heaping coals of fire upon his head” – when you subsequently reach the level of learning for its own sake.

 

                No matter what angle you take to help rid yourself of your evil inclination, the final victory comes about through learning Torah. So instead of struggling day in and day out and wasting so much precious time over self-guilt, depression, anxiety and sickness let us just start curing ourselves! It’s quite simple after all. Let us increase our Learning of Torah!

               

                As stated earlier, there are a few other major tayvos but once the sexual inclination is under control these are easily solvable as are many other negative traits. In order to emphasize this to us, this chapter has mainly addressed just this issue. With Hashem’s help, we will be able to purify our hearts and minds so as to be a vessel for the glory of Hashem. We all have the ability to reach the highest madregos and they come about through Tikkun Habris, purity of the covenant. Once purified the holiness we will feel in our lives and hearts will shine so brightly that we will be on fire. We wont even think of being angry or to have any pride. Our hearts and minds will be at such ease yet we will fight to use every moment properly. The ego we once had will be nullified and forgotten about. Our only concern will be for the lot of all the Jewish people and how we can help them to draw close to Hashem. May it be Hashem’s will that all discover the inner strength we truly have inside us to serve Hashem Yisborach.

 

 

                We are struggling because we truly are fish without water. Our souls are literally starving. Would we even think of doing such a thing to our bodies? Then how can we tourcher our souls like this? The evil inclination is doing us a favor here by pushing us around because maybe then we will wake up and see whats really going on. We are completely idle with our time and our thoughts. Torah doesn’t come first to us, it comes last. Wow to us for not putting our foot down sooner and changing our ways! It’s not to late. Boruch Hashem, blessed be Hashem we are still alive with time to save ourselves from Gehenim, Hell. Are we to lazy now to turn ourselves into a true eved Hashem, servent of Hashem?

 

                Here we have been spending hours a day in needless struggles and we don’t even know how much time we have left in this world. Maybe its fifty years, ten years, 1 hour or even one minute Chas V shalom. Do we want to end it having waisted most of it away with silly fights with our Yetzer Hara that could have been avoided? If Torah comes first in our lives then it’s a whole other ball game. It is a completely different life. A life which tastes sweeter then the taistiest apple or orange. We walk around so bitter all the time constantly searching for some sweetness to increase our happiness. What we fail to notice is what stands before us day in and day out. The Torah and Hashem who is watching our every move. Our father in heaven is wondering why his children don’t take shelter in his wings. There is no comfort in the world other then in the Torah and mitzvos of Hashem.

 

                In the mothers womb a baby learns all of the Torah from a malach, angel. Then as the midrash explains, the child forgets it from a little bop on the mouth before it is born. The child is supposed to forget the details of the Torah so that it should spend its time relearning it in this world so as the fufill the mitzvos properly with effort. The thing the baby isn’t supposed to forget is that if its soul is hungry it should learn Torah. Of course ones evil inclination will take control when the Torah comes last. Making the Torah come first means that when you close your eyes at night you are thinking about a chidush in the Torah and when arising you yearn to begin your day so that you can do mitzvos. This level is not beyond each of us! It is just the beginning and it is something we should not let slip away any longer. With Hashem’s help we will make a new beginning this very moment and start serving Hashem as we know we are supposed to.

 

 

                Could it be that because of worry over losing one small coin a man would toss out a purse full of gems and pearls (Reishis Chochmah)?